22 Things I Learned from Daddy’s Accident

Okay, I’m wrapping up this week with one final post, then I’ll move on to happier topics like Christmas.

Before I begin let me update that daddy has been discharged and he is able to walk with some assistance now. He will be having dizziness and headaches for a month or so, and will need to re-dress his wounds and remove stitches.

He’s recovering nicely.

Moving on, here’s twenty two things I learned from daddy’s accident:

  1. Always have something that tells others who to contact in case of emergencies. Either store an entry on your phone or keep a card in your wallet.
  2. Get the car number plate, name and IC number of the drivers involved. Get witnesses phone numbers if possible.
  3. Always make sure you are covered with medical and hospitalization insurance. Check now if you’re not sure.
  4. Once you enter a hospital, it’s almost impossible to get transferred elsewhere. Keep this in mind.
  5. If you want to transfer from a government hospital to a private hospital, you have to call the private hospital to make sure that they will accept the patient.
  6. You will need to hire a private ambulance to move the patient or request the private hospital to send an ambulance. They will charge a high amount. Negotiate. There’s a cancellation fee if they go there and you change your mind.
  7. If you or someone you know needs to go to the emergency room, bring extra clothing for yourself and patient, water, a blanket, your credit card and cash to pay deposits (some government hospitals don’t accept credit cards).
  8. If possible, have more than one person there with the patient. Someone will have to stay with the patient at all times, and someone else to do the running around.
  9. If you are admitted to a government hospital, you cannot take it for granted that things will be done as promised. Keep checking for updates, and be very assertive.
  10. Check and double check whatever procedures they are doing is done properly. I don’t know if this is allowed but I wish I thought of asking a private nurse to make a call to my dad to check his dressings at the government hospital. But I made sure that whatever problems (no matter how small) were brought to the nurse’s attention.
  11. At the government hospital, don’t assume that what you are told is correct. Ask another staff to find out. Sometimes you will be told to wait or do something just so that your problem will be passed to someone else.
  12. Assign someone to be in charge of calls from relatives and friends. It is better not to accept visitors when a crisis happens, because it is just not a good time to deal with them. I know people are caring and concerned, but I spent so much time re-telling the same story and listening to many different opinions.
  13. If patient is covered under company medical insurance, contact the company HR department and ask about the coverage amount. Also ask them the procedure for preparing a letter of guarantee. With this letter, you won’t have to pay any deposit.
  14. A police report is vital. Don’t skip this. By law you need to make a report within 24 hours, but if the victim is hospitalized, he can wait until he is well enough to make it to the police station. The hospital should have already made an initial police report. Verify this with the hospital police officer and get a report ID number.
  15. If you transfer to a private hospital, you will need to do all the diagnostic tests such as X-rays and CT scans all over again. This is because government hospitals will no release their films, and private hospitals won’t trust the scans anyway.
  16. Be very careful and pray hard that nothing happens to you. If you think that our Malaysia medical facilities are like what you watch on TV, I’m sorry to disappoint you.
  17. Drive carefully. You don’t want to be in the situation where you have hit someone. It’s a very very bad situation to be in.
  18. Cyclists should always wear a helmet. And try to cycle on the pavement instead of on the road.
  19. My family is very important to me. I realize how close I came to losing my dad, and I now place even higher value in spending time with family.
  20. Life is fragile. Live every day to the fullest. We Christians believe that we should spend our time on earth doing things that have eternal value.
  21. Make sure you have prepared your will and name your EPF beneficiary. This is important especially if you have dependants. It is also wise to write down the passwords for your website and email accounts for your loved ones.
  22. My blog friends are really kind and helpful people. Thank you everyone for your concern, well wishes, advice and prayers. I believe that every word of prayer you said reached heaven and helped my dad through it. Who cares if my blog is PR zero if I have found something even more precious in getting to know all of you?

Do you have anything to add? Place them in the comments below and I will mention it in a later post.On a personal level, I also learned two additional things. First I learned to take the leadership role in my family when my dad was injured. Second I learned that God is always faithful. I still see many good things come out of it even though this accident happened.

9 thoughts on “22 Things I Learned from Daddy’s Accident”

  1. I guess the most important thing is : Do NOT panic.
    If you are in a panic mode, and start scolding / irritating everyone that you see, it will only make thing worst.
    Do not try to do everything yourself. Get help.
    I am sure everyone would help, within their capabilities.

    Adino: Oh yeah, forgot about that.

  2. Little did I know that you are blessing others with this post of yours arising out of an accident which happened to your dad. Indeed, God is with you and your family and you have turned an unfortunate event into something useful to share with others. I personally have benefited from learning a thing or two up there.

    This post deserves a thumbs up.

    Adino: Thanks, I just wanted to share what I learned because I realized that there’s so much that people won’t know about.

  3. Praise be to God. I am sure He was with you and your family all the way. Which reminds me…I need to get my will drawn up too.
    Merry Christmas Adino!

    Adino: Merry Christmas to you too !

  4. Great to hear that your dad’s recovering nicely. God is faithful 🙂

    And thanks for the tips up there. Definitely something for me to really be prepared on.

    Adino: God is always faithful. At least something positive will come out of this experience.

  5. I wish I knew all the above when my Dad was admitted to hospital last week. That experience was my first time handling all the hospital admission procedures, dealing with doctors, nurses, etc.

    Merry Christmas to you and your family and speedy recovery for your Dad!

    Adino: Thanks Rinnah. Hope your dad has a speedy recovery too.

  6. Here are some of my views:
    #15 – I find this annoying, since extra CT and X-rays means more radiation risk.
    #18 – I’ll keep that in mind.
    #21 – I just got scared when I hit this line.

    From this entire list of 22 + 2 things, I think you’re pretty thoughtful, and is aware of what to do when things happen, and is really the ‘leader’ kind of person. I probably wouldn’t have thought that much.

    Adino: I started out writing 10 things and ended up with 22… and I think I even have more to add 🙂

  7. yeah experiences can make you stronger.
    Merry Christmas

    Adino: You’re right. This makes me stronger and wiser. Merry Christmas to you too. Take care!

  8. have a blessed christmas!
    good to hear everything is fine now!
    praise Him!

    Adino: Thanks Michelle, wish you and your family a Merry Christmas too!

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