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Social Media

canyon by B Cleary

Social media has become a popular buzz word these days.

It seems everybody is trying to get into social media. My company has even formed a new department just to promote our products and activities online.

Most people would equate social media to Facebook or Twitter alone, but social media transcends any single website or service.

To me, social media services allow us to consume each other’s lives.

When you follow, friend or subscribe to someone, you open the floodgates to their thoughts, interests, and activities.

I have been a user of services like SixDegrees, Friendster, Digg, StumbleUpon, Facebook, Delicious, LinkedIn and Twitter. Since I got my new phone, I’ve even started Foursquare, Waze and GetGlue accounts.

I’ve found one weakness of social media after using these services for some time.

The terrible fact is, all the social media in the world is useless if you don’t have friends who are equally interested (and active) in social media.

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It can get very lonely and disheartening.

Somehow, somewhere I have gotten so busy updating random facts about my life and checking in all over the place.

But was anyone listening? It’s like I’m shouting into a canyon and all I get is my own echo.

What can I offer that can stand from all the digital noise?

I’m not a sweet young thing, a celebrity, an outrageous personality or a talented whatever. I’m just a regular guy. Who would be interested to know about my life?

I’m really glad to have met some new acquaintances online. But when I look carefully, I have met all of you through blogging, not through services like Twitter or Facebook.

I feel it’s all meaningless… like typing 4 8 15 16 23 42 every 108 minutes. Take for example my latest tweet “Good morning and Happy September”.

What was the point of that message and will it mean anything one week from now, or even 24 hours from now?

Then there are privacy issues and the danger of revealing TMI in a moment of excitement or anger.

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Breathe.

So what am I going to do? First of all, I’m going to stop using some of my ‘social media’ accounts. There’s just no point and it’s not worth the time.

Second, I’m going to try to engage people in conversation instead of publishing random thoughts.

Third, I’m going to try channeling most of my updates back through this blog. Blog posts allow me to express my thoughts and feelings better than 140 characters can.

Fourth, I may be removing some ‘friends’ and stop following so many people. Don’t worry… if you’re reading this blog post then you’re probably not one of them. I’m talking about those you add, but have not sent a single message (or worse, never bothered to reply my messages!).

In case you skipped all the above and just read the last line, what I’m expressing is my poor user experience with social media because, well, I’m failing in the ‘social’ part. I start to see it’s kind of pointless for me, and I have decided to take action.

P/S: I realize I’ve been saying a lot of things are meaningless. I’m not trying to be difficult or sound suicidal, but a lot of things that occupy our time, energy and attention are really meaningless in the sense that you get no lasting value, and sometimes you don’t even get appreciated.

Photo by: B Cleary

The Weekend Is Over

In the blink of an eye, the weekend is over. It’s Monday, and the whole cycle begins again.

Before I went to sleep last night, I felt a deep sense of regret. It seems like I have accomplished nothing.

Throughout the night, I felt restless. Even my dreams were uneasy. I kept dreaming that I had work to do, tasks to finish.

And this morning as I was woken up, I felt really unsatisfied because I couldn’t finish the work I had been dreaming about.

Last Friday evening was full of hope, full of possibilities.

Saturday morning was filled with exciting freedom.

Sunday was moody and heartbreaking. And last night was totally depressing.

Poey Chin cooked me a bowl of prawn-mee flavoured instant noodles trying to cheer me up, and it helped.

But as I went to sleep I felt that I could have spent my time better.

Sometimes I wonder if I would feel the same before I die.

Would my life be totally wasted? Would I die feeling unsatisfied, feeling like I wasted all my time?

Even if I accomplish many things, will it matter after I’m gone?

In the end, it’s all nothing. Nothing lasts forever, not even happiness.

Work is meaningless. Wealth is meaningless. Life is meaningless.

Appreciating Taste

healthy_food by Bura

This morning I was brushing my teeth and I tasted the mint in my toothpaste. I mean really, tasted the sweet, fresh flavour of the toothpaste.

And I realized that I have not tasted my toothpaste for a very long time. All this time just rushing through the process without second thoughts, my mind usually thinking about the busy day ahead.

If you think about it, a group of product development experts probably spent months to perfect the taste of your toothpaste. They probably paid many testers and focus groups to get it right.

I have been trying to learn how to appreciate taste and flavors in these past few months.

I have lost 11 kgs since the beginning of this year, and one of the ways I did that was to eat less. At first it was really hard to cut down on the quantity of food. I often felt unsatisfied at the end of a meal.

But I picked up a really good tip, which is to really appreciate and taste your food.

I would take a bite of meat and take the time to feel the texture of meat. I learned to detect my wife’s loving preparation of marinade and sauces. I started to differentiate different spices and ingredients.

Sometimes you watch food reviews on TV and they seem to have so much to say after taking one bite. I think they have learned how to really appreciate taste and flavors.

They probably taste the different flavors as we might separate different colors, or how a musician can separate different notes and chords.

Sometimes I also think about the hard work and long process that brought the food from the farms to my table.

So I encourage you to really take the time to taste your food today.

It doesn’t have to be exotic or luxurious food. Even your roti canai can be a wonderful exploration.

Share your experience. Did you try it, and what did you discover?

2009

It’s another new year!

After the big hoo-hah and all the money everyone spent on fireworks, alcohol and party decorations, it is just another normal day after all.

If ETs were watching us, would they wonder why there was a need to celebrate a change in the calendar. Why celebrate a new year? Why not a new month? A new day? A new hour? Why don’t humans celebrate the passing of a decade? A millennium? (oh wait, we did do that… but one year too early!)

Perhaps it is the fact that humans have such a short life span. Each passing year or birthday is a celebration of… of… umm… You know, I can’t really think of a reason.

Could it be a subconscious global wish to forget about the terrible things we have done to each other in the previous year? Will wars stop, will rivalries cease to exist, will enemies come to peace?

On the other hand, should we congratulate each other on the victories and achievements that we have accomplished? What about those who have faced defeat or those who have fallen short of an accomplishment?

Is this the only time in the year when everyone can openly declare that they wish to turn over a new leaf? Why do we come up with new years resolutions anyway?

In 2008 I was expecting a lot of things to happen. There was supposed to be change in the country, a positive change that will give us hope for a better future. But then my hopes were shattered. It is the same after all. In some ways things have gotten worse.

Politicians will remain politicians no matter which side they are on. In my opinion, those politicians who genuinely want to serve the community (in actions, not only in words) are a minority. Shame on me for putting hope in politics.

There were some good and exciting things that happened in my life last year. I’m not saying that the year was full of only bad experiences.

I’m just talking about hopes and expectations. What do I expect in this new year? What should I expect?

To me it’s just another day, just another month. I didn’t wake up to a magically renewed life. I still have to go to work. In fact, I expect lots of problems at work today because incompetent programmers never consider things like a new year in their programs.

I still owe the bank a few hundred thousand ringgit. By the end of this year, I would have barely made a dent in settling my debt. That’s if I still have a job by the end of the year.

I apologize if my fatalistic thoughts have brought the mood down. I look at reality and I just don’t see any reason to celebrate the new year at all. There is nothing good to expect, and I guess that’s really sad (for me).

Maybe I am setting myself up at the lowest point possible so I can’t get disappointed. Maybe there will be pleasant surprises this year.

Maybe I just need to learn to be more thankful and optimistic. Wait, was that a new year’s resolution? Nah.

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Welcome 2008

How quickly the year has passed! What a journey, what a rush!

I just want to spend a few minutes writing down my thoughts on this new year’s day.

I was reading a post I wrote last new year. You can read it too if you didn’t read it.

I started last year looking forward to a lot of new things. I wrote that I resigned from my job, but in the weeks that followed, my company offered an attractive counter-offer and I stayed. It has been great working under my new boss Mr Koay who is a great leader and visionary.

I was looking forward to moving in to my condo. I have been living here for almost nine months now. Things are starting to fall apart and need maintenance. I am used to living here now, but I still miss home once in a while.

I was looking forward to marriage, and what a joy it has been. What a time or learning and sharing and discovering so much about Poey Chin.

I started attending DUMC, and it is wonderful that my faith has been challenged and I have the desire and passion for God now.

Another highlight of the year for me was becoming a blogger. I love sharing my life with you, and reading about your life through your blogs. I enjoy waking up each morning to see so many wonderful comments from you readers. It was amazing to have one of my posts hit the Digg front page and it continues to be a regular traffic generator until today.

What do I look forward to next year?

Personally I look forward to the birth of my child (we’re still not sure if boy or girl yet). People keep telling me that my life will get more busy and I will lose sleep :)

At work I’m looking forward to some interesting projects. My manager has hinted that I am supposed to be in charge of several projects and I look forward to developing myself in that area.

I didn’t prepare any new year resolutions in 2007, and I’m not going to prepare any in 2008 as well.

I foresee a challenging year ahead. It’s an election year, which is always tricky. I’m going to be voting for the first time. It’s going to be very challenging economically. It’s going to be very tough getting income from blogging.

The holidays are over, and I look forward to resuming my normal blogging schedule. I have another blog to take care of now, so my blogging time will be split between the two.

My only wish for this year is to get to know more readers and more bloggers.

Have a Happy 2008 everyone. I wish for all your dreams to come true!