What Truly Matters?

Today I woke up wondering where my life is heading.

Where am I going with my career?

What is my career anyway? Is it just going day to day, solving problems? Will all the ‘objectives’ and targets we are trying so hard to meet even matter at all in 1 year’s time? In 6 months time?

What will happen tomorrow? Other objectives, other targets? Other problems? Definitely.

Why then am I doing all this? Well, for one thing I’m very good at what I do. For another thing I’m getting paid for it.

But that thought has really given me the perspective that work shouldn’t be everything. The next question to ask is, how do we find that balance between personal life and work?

Now some would say that I have a Gen-Y mindset. The older generations would work hard, work weekends and long hours just to get work done. Maybe some would even say that I can think like this because I can afford to.

I wake up and there is baby Rachel peeking over the side of her crib.

All I see are her eyes and her hair. She smiles at me and her eyes become like mine when I smile.

And then I remember that she is one of the things that truly matter.

I look at my wife who’s already busy preparing milk for baby, and I remember that our marriage is something that truly matters.

I think of the time I waste on various other things like TV, Facebook and even blogging.

Why have I been spending so much time on things that don’t matter? Is this the legacy I want to leave behind?

Who cares about how many mobsters I have, or how much money I make in Mob Wars? Am I a greater man because my blog has a certain number of hit counts?

After I’m dead and gone, will my children think back to that Formula One race or that season of NBA basketball?

I’m going to start spending more time on the things that truly matter, and less time on the things that don’t.

How about you? Do you find yourself spending a lot of time on things that don’t matter?

Photo: Benjamin Turner

P/S: I’m quitting Mob Wars now.

11 thoughts on “What Truly Matters?”

  1. dear thanks for making an effort to make our marriage even better than now πŸ™‚ love you!

    Adino: Love you too!

  2. while i appreciate where yr post is coming from n its intentions, at the same time dont underestimate a human’s capacity to be many things n play many roles at the same without any single role suffering from multi tasking.

    Jus being a regular bengbeng kaypo πŸ™‚

    Adino: Thanks for the suggestion haha!

  3. Even we know that is something doesn’t matter, but we will feel so happy to do it. Or more willingly to do it than something DOES matter. Don’t you think so? haha…

    Adino: Sometimes it feels this way. But time to change my mindset. I hope I can do that…

  4. All the time. I should be doing stuff important (like writing essays) but I’m spend a LOT of time reading feeds.

    By the way:
    “TV, Facebook and even blogging”
    Cross-out blogging; blogging matters: this is your journal that will live for as long as Internet itself (assuming hosting fees paid).

    Adino: You can justify that because you’re learning while you read feeds! As for blogging, I was referring to blogging income. I think I should be satisfied just to cover my hosting expenses.

  5. giving all those things that don’t matter? life would be so boring lah!

    Adino: I know… and I struggle with this. I guess it has to be a balance, spending more time on important matters and less time on things that don’t!

  6. I will agree with others
    Try to strike a balance

    but FYI
    I have quit ALL games on Facebook
    except flufffriend (which isn’t a game. I consider it an … interaction with others)

    Adino: Balance is good, but the question is how to find that balance. I think we can continue with some games on Facebook, especially those that don’t require you to play it 24 hours

  7. family is still the best..
    nothing else come first..
    now i truly know how important family is..
    as FAMILY stands for father and mother i love you πŸ™‚

    Adino: Waa first time I heard about F.a.m.i.l.y. hehe.

    You’re right family is important but yet sometimes we spent the least amount of time for it

  8. Got me thinking, where’s blogging in our priorities, yeah? Have a great day ahead πŸ™‚

    Adino: I think casual blogging is fine, but when we want to concern ourselves with advertising and sponsors then it becomes time consuming.

  9. what a conincidence, i am reading a book at the moment which deals with those precise issues – ie what TRULY matters. its called ‘when the game is over, it all goes back into the box’ by john ortberg, it’s a really good read if you can get your hands on it. i’m sure it will answer some of your questions!

    Adino: I’ll check it out, thanks!

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